Showing posts with label Manners. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Manners. Show all posts

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Today's Rant


As a general rule, I make an effort to have patience and be polite with people I encounter throughout my day. At least until they give me solid reasons not to be. However, I’m seriously considering making a change to that policy.

More and more, individuals standing in front of me are beginning conversations with “I need.” My reaction to that has always been “no.” Previously, I’ve given them a gentle reminder and the opportunity to rephrase their request. Now, it’s happening so often that my response is rapidly changing to an emphatic “HELL NO!” Along with a fear-for-your-safety-back-away-and-proceed-to-the-nearest-exit-with-all-due-haste glare.

When did all semblances of pleasantries and consideration vanish from our existence? Is it asking too much for an individual to offer some form of greeting prior to making demands on me? Or to say “could I please have” or “would you mind” instead of “I need”?

Apparently, it is. Perhaps it’s time for me to remind people that I have a sharpened pencil and I’m not afraid to use it.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Say Please


Lately I’ve noticed more and more people starting conversations with “I need…” Is it just me or do you find that somewhat annoying too? Perhaps I’m showing my age here, but I was raised to ask for things, not make demands. Especially not from any individual I happen to stumble on.

I know the world is becoming entirely “me” focused but honestly, when someone begins with that, my instant response is to say no. Even if it’s something simple that would be absolutely no problem for me or something I might just do on average day without being asked. With me, a little politeness goes a long way.

I can’t tell you how many times I force myself to take a deep breath and swallow my first reaction. And then I wonder. Am I being unreasonable, thinking I should be asked for something rather than told what I am going to do? I just can’t tell any more.