Saturday, April 5, 2008

Consider Yourself Hugged


This is very old and has been printed often but I still thought it worth sharing with you. Take a moment and think of your friends who mean so much. Then tell them. No matter how self-confident you may be it is still nice to know someone, somewhere thinks highly of you.

A very happy Saturday to all. Thanks for stopping by.


One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name. Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down. It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.

That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual. On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so much," were most of the comments.

No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on.

Several years later, one of the students was killed in VietNam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature. The church was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin. As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. "Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "yes." Then he said: "Mark talked about you a lot."

After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher. "We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it."

Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.

"Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."

All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home."

Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."

"I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary"

Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times," Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: "I think we all saved our lists"

That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.

Life will end one day. We do not know when that one day will be so please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important. Tell them, before it is too late.

6 comments:

Amarinda Jones said...

Very deep and meaningful for a Sunday morning in Oz

What's the story with the man by the way? No pressure but we must know all

barbara huffert said...

The man and I are meeting tomorrow, mid-morning at Barnes & Noble. Appropriate place, I thought. Details, or at least some of them, to follow.

Amarinda Jones said...

Be calm, be confident and be yourself. I have never met you but I know you are fantastic - remember that.

Molly Daniels said...

I got this email a couple of years ago; I'd forgotten all about it!

Yes...remember YOU ARE WORTH IT! Don't try to be something you're not; just relax and remember he somewhat already 'knows' you, and likes you well enough to want to meet in person!

((((((Hugs)))))))))))

Sandra Cox said...

Wow, Barbara. That gave me goosebumps. I remember it from awhile ago. So glad you posted it.

Dakota Rebel said...

I have never read it before and now I am sitting at my desk at work with tears running down my face. I am a sucker for stories like that.

One day I sent Mr. Rebel an email, just a little note to tell him how proud of him I am for working so hard. He loved it and still thanks me for it.

Thank you for the story.

XoXoXo
Dakota Rebel